Being self-sufficient can be scary, but it’s worth it, as it can make you a strong, independent person who doesn’t need the validation of others. However, that does not mean that it’s a bad idea to ask for help, but it’s important to try not to be solely dependent on your friends’ or family’s thoughts.
#1 Increase Your self-esteem
Sometimes becoming more self-sufficient means you need to look deep inside yourself. Be proud of who you are, and confident in your everyday choices.
#2 Stop asking for others’ permission
Being emotionally strong means you know the right decisions to make and are not afraid to make them.
#3 Be comfortable with your independence
You need to learn to be comfortable with your independent time. Learn good self care habits including getting enough sleep, eating well, and taking time for yourself.
#4 Be more assertive
Wanting everyone to be happy is not a bad thing, but being a complete push-over is not, because pleasing everyone is never going to happen.
#5 Understand what makes you dependent
Oxytocin is the brain chemical that makes mammals feel safe in the company of others. Just by knowing that you can tell yourself, ‘I am safe, even without the herd.’
#6 Spend time with other people
t’s healthy to have your interpersonal needs divided up so that you are not overly dependent on simply one parent, or your partner, or one friend.
#7 Test yourself
Challenge yourself and ask: are you looking for others to make you happy? When you’re alone, do you feel the need to fill the loneliness void with distraction?
#8 Sit with your emotions
The most important way to learn how to become emotionally self-sufficient is by facing what you’re feeling rather than running away or trying to supress yourself.